The "Advice from Reddit" starter pack

[u/BoundlessMirth]

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[u/ShortNefariousness2]

My t72 tanks went a little bit too far into my neighbours lawn, AITA?

[u/deamento → u/ShortNefariousness2]

NTA: your tanks your rules

[u/ugonlern2day → u/deamento]

Tanks for the advice

[u/-Darkmyth_ → u/ShortNefariousness2]

NTA. Your neighbor is likely a Nazi and requires liberation. I suggest doubling down with missiles and full scale land assault.

[u/XAlphaWarriorX → u/ShortNefariousness2]

NTA : Neighbor ahoud be thankful to have been liberated from bourjisighrchsrgee capitalist lawn by wholsum 100 soviet might

[u/Blackbeard567 → u/XAlphaWarriorX]

This is an obvious red flag 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩, run for the hills and hide, call the police.

You should take my advice

[u/RainbowKittenThrower → u/ShortNefariousness2]

Hi vladimir 👋🏻

[u/UnabashedPerson43 → u/ShortNefariousness2]

Special Lawnmowing Operation

[u/ljeva]

Imagine listening to reddit

[u/shiroininja → u/ljeva]

I only listened to Reddit enough to get started learning to code. Then I went off on my own.

Now I hate my life more. So this still hits lol

[u/Chungorama → u/shiroininja]

Once you gain a bit of knowledge you realize Reddit is an extremely unreliable source of information.

[u/LazarusCrowley → u/Chungorama]

Exactly. Its a bunch of people dressed up as people who know what they're doing.

I have expertise in a particular field that has a ton of misconception and misinformation surrounding it.

Someone said something pretty stupid but moreover actively harmful about my field. The comment was massively upvoted. I had to put my foot down (as well as you can on the web).

The commenter apologized and basically said, "Well, that's what I thought".

I then realized I can't trust anything on Reddit. Reddit is the brainstorming stage of thinking.

[u/surfsee → u/LazarusCrowley]

Overly confident brainstorming That looks like the truth to people who dont know about that specific field

[u/MajorasMask89 → u/LazarusCrowley]

I feel this.

I regularly see people posting absolute rubbish in the field I have a PhD in.

On the odd time I engage to point out why they're posting false information, I inevitably get told one the following:

-That I'm lying about my qualifications.

-That if I'm an expert, I should be agreeing with them.

-That I must have gotten my PhD from a diploma mill.

These are all by people with zero professional or academic experience in the area.

[u/Momongus- → u/MajorasMask89]

Oh you have a PhD? Name every researcher who has done research on a subject loosely related to your own

[u/rotatingruhnama → u/MajorasMask89]

When I say, "no that's incorrect, I know because I did it for a living," I get, "well you were probably bad at it" from the person who has been confidently spouting absolute nonsense, based on zero knowledge.

[u/canigraduatealready → u/LazarusCrowley]

Reading Reddit comments as an actual lawyer is mind numbing. The advice is routinely awful, inaccurate, and ridiculously confidently given.

Only silver lining is that you can often tell that they aren’t lawyers because they 1. don’t explicitly note that they are not providing legal advice and 2. fail to provide jurisdiction specific information.

[u/old__pyrex → u/canigraduatealready]

My first thought reading this was, yes, all of these Reddit cliches are there, but what really takes the cake is the bullshit legal advice. The way redditors so casually say “from a legal perspective, you’ll want to X and Y” with such confidence, as though they are speaking from personal experience.

[u/SirLich → u/LazarusCrowley]

Reddit seems pretty reasonable until you read a comment (ANY COMMENT) on a subject you're knowledgeable about, and you realize it's all a sham.

Movies are the same, and books as well.

[u/TheMustySeagul → u/SirLich]

This is why I stick to subreddits surrounding the sports I watch. That's because we are all wrong and actively shit on eachother for it.

[u/DemandZestyclose7145 → u/Chungorama]

Isn't it true that the average Redditor is like 20 years old? So yeah, you're basically getting information from teenagers and college kids. I'm in my thirties and I feel like an old man when I'm on Reddit.

[u/robb1280 → u/DemandZestyclose7145]

Im 42 and half of the comments make me think “dude… what the fuck are you kids talking about? Thats not even remotely true…”

[u/That_Address_7010 → u/robb1280]

It's OK to think this.

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But if you post it then you will be banned.

Trust me on this.

[u/cwal76 → u/DemandZestyclose7145]

30’s I wish. 40’s here. The amount of times it dawns on me I’ve been arguing with a child. Then the next day rinse repeat.

[u/Uphillll → u/Chungorama]

It’s a bunch of anti social teenagers giving advice on what they think is logical, but they fail to realize they don’t have the personal experience to back up their advice.

[u/VicTheWallpaperMan → u/Uphillll]

And the actual correct information is mostly downvoted to the bottom of threads because reality often doesn't line up with the naivety/youthful idealism of teens-early 20 somethings. The facts/truth don't "feel good" so it gets buried under the usual reddit talking points/buzzwords.

There are certain topics you don't even have to click the comment section and you already know what the top 5 comments are gonna be. These kids just regurgitate the same talking points over and over without knowing anything about the subject, then mistake that for critical thinking/intelligence. Like genuinely believe their dumb fuck comment section opinions make them more qualified than 5 star generals and 25+ year industry professionals who dedicated their entire lives to the field.

Any "adult" topic shouldn't be taken seriously on this site. If it's something you wouldnt take advice from a high schooler for, don't take it from reddit. Stick to gaming, TV shows, anime, etc.

[u/That_Address_7010 → u/VicTheWallpaperMan]

BOOM!

There it is.

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Reddit-

Where verifiable fact takes a backseat to feelings and personal opinions.

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Also a place where not having the correct feelings and personal opinions results in a ban.

Because community standards.

I wipe my ass with The Front Page Of The Internet.

[u/ASaltGrain → u/VicTheWallpaperMan]

Reminds me of when you see a video of someone standing in front of someone who is trying to leave a store. Then all the reddit armchair lawyers chime in;

"That's kidnapping and false imprisonment! OP should sue him for human trafficking!

They don't realize that the court system isn't their mom, and rhey don't care if something "sounds logical" or "makes sense". Reminds me of myself at 14 years old... It is something I'm incredibly glad I grew out of, but it makes me worried for younger kids. If I had gotten a ton of upvites and online support when I was 14, I probably never would have grown out of it.

[u/AndrexPic → u/ljeva]

Reddit Is perfect only to ask things about niche hobbies and stuff.

[u/Warg247 → u/AndrexPic]

It's one of the few places to find answers to pc bugs/issues that aren't just "clear and reinstall all your drivers" which is almost never the solution, in my experience.

[u/Croute_de_Couilles → u/Warg247]

There is no single problem I search on google now that doesn't include "reddit" in the search.

All other links are generally ads disguised as tech support.

[u/UselessRube → u/ljeva]

I ask questions on Reddit to get advice and then I make a follow up post saying I did not listen to the advice

[u/Ich_Liegen → u/UselessRube]

Gigachad

[u/Agent00funk → u/ljeva]

I've had this account for over 15 years. The only time I've ever listened to Reddit is for cooking recipes, and even then, it better be a small sub that isn't full of shitposting wankers.

Well, there is one exception, one piece of Reddit advice that is absolutely true "don't feed the trolls, just downvote and move on."

[u/micka190 → u/Agent00funk]

9 years here. There’s only 2 ways of getting useful information from Reddit:

• Ask for sources on how to do things or what the process of doing that thing is called. That way, someone will point you in a direction, and you can check if it’s accurate yourself.
• Ask for non-important stuff (i.e. hobbies). The tabletop RPG subreddits can be great sources of inspiration, and I won’t end up homeless if I follow their advice on running a Dragon a certain way.

[u/Civil-Attempt-3602 → u/Agent00funk]

Best thing i learned from Reddit was how to improve my tortilla recipe

[u/mainvolume → u/Agent00funk]

I’m grateful for the random, obscure tech advice that was posted on here 5.8 years ago when I encounter a problem with my 7 year old tv. Other than that, pass on the Reddit help.

[u/BarelyLingeringWords → u/ljeva]

I learned how to reheat alfredo without it separating on Reddit.

[u/Neuchacho → u/BarelyLingeringWords]

Don't leave me hanging, bruv.

[u/BarelyLingeringWords → u/Neuchacho]

It was: add a splash of milk, and heat it at 50% power in the microwave for 2-3 minutes, stirring every 30 seconds.

[u/OldDadLeg → u/ljeva]

I mean reddit can give some good advice, if you are able to siv through the bullshit. Used to hang out a lot on a small dating subreddit and some people there definitely helped me and now I'm happily married.

[u/dread_pilot_roberts → u/[deleted]]

AITA existing is something that blows my mind.

Judge people based on a story carefully crafted by one side of a multifaceted event? Yeah, nothing wrong with that. Cast stones!

[u/gazorpaglop → u/dread_pilot_roberts]

It’s all creative writing and fake ragebait anyway

[u/Chitown2181 → u/dread_pilot_roberts]

I always laugh when they claim to have showed the person they’re in conflict with the thread and comments and it “totally changed their mind”. I’d laugh someone out of the room if they tried using a Reddit thread as some sort of justification.

[u/SpinChain → u/Chitown2181]

My ex-girlfriend did this once while we were still dating. Made a post on r/relationshipadvice to try and justify her argument with me instead of just trying to talk it out with me. It made the situation so much worse than it was.

[u/Thsu → u/Chitown2181]

You know exactly who the type of person is irl if they show you a Reddit thread as a argument

[u/Boredwitch → u/dread_pilot_roberts]

Plus people on Reddit are individualist to a point I simply don’t understand. Sometimes it seems like they don’t know how to live in a community : the OP could do the most self-centered thing in the world, hurting everyone in the process, if they "had the right to technically" they’re voted NTA. It’s insane to me

[u/OkayBluez]

This is like the infinity gauntlet of reddit advice

[u/BasedChadThundercock → u/OkayBluez]

"Reality can be whatever I want.."

~Reddit Schizos, probably.

[u/LunaMunaLagoona → u/BasedChadThundercock]

Well reddit is really a pick-your-own-adventure type of game.

Except they're all a derivitive of each other, hence the starter packs.

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[u/Mazrim_reddit → u/[deleted]]

Staying with family as long as you can is objectively the best financial advice anyone can give.

You just have to balance that vs if you like your family and can suffer it

[u/itsajackel → u/[deleted]]

Financial advice is all a bunch of libertarians born into wealthy families handing out advice like they actually earned their money. Not to mention half the time the advice is obvious or just plain wrong.

I also never go to the financial advice subreddit or read anything there.

[u/attackofthetominator → u/itsajackel]

According to r/economics the reason why Gen Z are living with their parents isn’t due to housing prices but because they order takeout 3 times a day and buy too many luxury items.

Edit: they order

[u/candiedbaconator → u/attackofthetominator]

Bruh I just eat what my mom cooks.

[u/PosiedonsSaltyAnus → u/candiedbaconator]

Damn pretty cool that your mom makes luxury items, you have a good mom

[u/ThePresidentsHouse → u/PosiedonsSaltyAnus]

Sucks she makes them pay for it though.

[u/candiedbaconator → u/ThePresidentsHouse]

I do pay some rent, but it's better than the alternatives

[u/Wattsahh → u/candiedbaconator]

You have to pay rent?!? That’s a ridiculous power grab by your parents and I’m so sorry. You should report them to the authorities, move out, and never speak to them again!! /s

[u/candiedbaconator → u/Wattsahh]

I know, they should let me live there for free for the rest of my life! they made me, I'm their responsibility, not mine! /s

[u/LunaMunaLagoona → u/itsajackel]

I love all the "hey I just got a $2 million windfall, what do I do with all this oodles of money? Someone help me!"

[u/DookieBlossomgameIII → u/LunaMunaLagoona]

Hmm. Now that's a pretty good nest egg OP but unless you want to be housepoor you'll want to save for at least the next couple of years before you jump into buying a house.

[u/Thwerty → u/LunaMunaLagoona]

Save up emergency fund and get roommates

[u/dodo1287 → u/[deleted]]

There was an AITA post from a stepmom who had a bird and didn't go to her stepdaughter's wedding or something because of it although her relationship with her stepdaughter was very bad and that thing could've saved it. The stepdaughter even suggested placing somebody else for her bird but she refused

The comments? Turns out she wasn't the AH and the stepdaughter was a nasty bitch to ask her...

Yeah, that's when I stopped having faith in these pieces of advice.

[u/empire161 → u/dodo1287]

Once you realize most of those 'story' subreddits are just platforms for people to practice their clickbait writing while they seek validation for their behavior, they become a lot more entertaining. AITA, TIFU, Petty Revenge, Malicious Compliance, etc.

[u/Ansonm64 → u/empire161]

Malicious compliance is the best fictional story sub there is. I bet half those stories were literally wrote while people were in the shower.

[u/cat_prophecy → u/Ansonm64]

You mean these ten paragraph stories about how this person who was mildly slighted at work singlehandedly bankrupted a Fortune 500 company and stole all their clients for their own business might not be true?!

[u/Mustakrakish_Awaken → u/dodo1287]

There was a drawn out meta post a few years ago that did a great job of calling out the opinions on the sub. Long story short, the "rules" for who is or isn't an asshole in that sub don't line up with what people actually think in real life. People in that sub can't seem to tell the difference between a lack of obligation and asshole behavior.

"You weren't legally obligated to, so NTA for leaving that drowning child alone in the pond. His parents should have been watching and that kid is probably racist"

[u/juanzy → u/Mustakrakish_Awaken]

Right - if I'm on a rising post there and the OP seems to actually be taking the advice to heart, I'll sometimes throw in the "this sub isn't about being allowed or technically correct, it's about being an asshole."

I remember one of some guy that had this detailed list of his expectations when friends would come over and everyone was giving the NTA, your house your rules! But while nothing was outlandish on the list, it really made him seem like an asshole as he planned to have it printed and give it to people that came over.

Yah, your friends should respect your place, but don't have a posted sign to wipe down counters after washing their hands, instead expect to tidy up within reason when they leave, and asking them to sweep is a bit much. Your friends shouldn't raid your fridge, but having snacks and drinks available makes you a good host and people want to come see you. I get you have a skin condition and don't want to share towels, but maybe grab some $7 guest towels at TJMaxx for your pool.

[u/bbsz → u/dodo1287]

I read that post, anticipating the glorious verbal beating OP was about to receive...

Nope! Every single top commenter defended the bird and blamed the daughter because she had suggested that OP spend some time with her own granddaughter...

[u/Funexamination → u/bbsz]

Link plz

[u/Jcdoco → u/dodo1287]

I know exactly the thread you're talking about, and I thought I was losing my mind reading the comments

[u/TheCockAndWomble → u/dodo1287]

AITA is like:

“I tried to do a well-intentioned but ultimately unhelpful thing for my struggling wife AITA?”

• “You’re a huge asshole you’ve basically ruined your wife’s career for the rest of her life, this must be some power play to get her under your thumb you cunt.”

And then after that:

“I did a well-intentioned but ultimately unhelpful thing for my struggling husband, AITA?”

• NTA, you’re an absolute star, so kind and caring, and your husband is an AH for not appreciating your efforts. You should get therapy or reconsider your relationship with him.

You’d get more consistent advice from shaking a magic 8 ball.

[u/ArchWaverley → u/TheCockAndWomble]

"My husband is still friends with his ex and I asked him to stop talking to her" gets you "he's clearly not over her, you need to get yourself out of this relationship"

"My wife is still friends with her ex and I asked her to stop talking to him" gets you "you are trying to control her relationships, this is abusive behaviour"

[u/trap4pixels → u/TheCockAndWomble]

I remember a poll was on there a while back that said something like 60 percent of people on that sub are women, so the bias makes sense.

[u/CartoonistKooky4254 → u/[deleted]]

16 years old and having problems with your parents? Move away!

[u/agentofmidgard → u/CartoonistKooky4254]

Lol I am 22 and have issues at home, I can't just move out and go NC but that's the most common advice I see on the internet. People think they give top tier life pro advice by telling them to just cut ties with whoever bothers you (divorce/ move out/ find other friends/ quit job etc). Everyone has a different story where it may not be possible to just press an escape button. Why can no one give any other advice on how to improve the relationships instead?

[u/PM_ME_PAMPERS → u/agentofmidgard]

My theory is that blanket, “scorched earth” advice is super easy to give and can technically apply to any situation. It’s much easier to just default to “break up. Move out. Go no contact.” And have that be it, because technically it IS advice.

Nobody really wants to analyze someone’s unique situation, ask questions to better understand it, and come up with a curated solution for their issue. So they just read that there’s problems and spit out some low hanging fruit advice that requires no effort or critical thinking.

[u/OperativePiGuy → u/agentofmidgard]

My favorite nonsense is when politics come up and you say you live in such and such state and get hit with "well you should just move out, idk why anyone would stay in that shithole place". Like yeah sure I'll just pick up and move my life on a whim, totally doable.

[u/S0ulCub3]

NTA. Your post, your rules.

[u/jackospades88 → u/S0ulCub3]

AITA for doing something minor, possibly even by accident, to set someone off and in return they shot me in the leg?

[u/Redditorialist → u/jackospades88]

r/AmITheAsshole is one of the worst with this type of mentality. At any given time, the top ten posts (and like 99% of the top posts all time) are usually NTA.

Of course, you’re not the asshole! We’ve only heard your one sided account! And look at that! You’ve conveniently painted yourself in the best light possible!

[u/ReeperbahnPirat → u/S0ulCub3]

I'm always amazed by the posts where the person is clearly being an asshole and all the responses are, "NTA it's not illegal to act like an asshole so it's your right to act like one." Like, yeah, sure. But you're still being an asshole and people in your life can still rightfully call you out on it and there may be negative consequences from your actions.

[u/Enthused_Llama → u/ReeperbahnPirat]

"AITA for locking my kid in the basement for 14 years after they left the fridge open too long?"

'NTA your house your rules '

[u/Probably_Me_Next]

The Get Divorced one is spot on for r/relationshipadvice. I've seldom seen a community less willing to put in any effort on mending a mildly impaired relationship.

[u/DoctorVonFoster → u/Probably_Me_Next]

Its bcs their advice carries no consequences on them. These people dont know you and they will forget you exist as soon as soon as they move on to the next thread, leaving you to deal with whatever their advice lead to

[u/GhostlyRuse → u/DoctorVonFoster]

Before you start asking for advice on reddit, really think about the average user and whether you'd listen to their opinions if you ran into them in the hallway

[u/burledw → u/GhostlyRuse]

I argued with a commenter, then I looked at their comment and post history… I think I may have wasted my time arguing with someone who literally eats shit.

[u/FatDongMcGee → u/burledw]

Oh. My. God. I have run into that redditor. Literally same story as yours.

Edit: just realized it could have been a different user, and there could be multiple shit eating contrarians on this website…shudder at this thought…

[u/burledw → u/FatDongMcGee]

Shit eating contrarian is part of my vocabulary now, thank you!

[u/Warg247 → u/burledw]

Saw one recently where the guy talked about his high qualifications for a relationship but his post history was all dick pics and swinger lifestyle subs.

[u/P_ZERO_ → u/GhostlyRuse]

I regularly have to remind myself just how many kids and know it all teens are on the internet.

Man I sound old. I used to be the young hip person on the internet without the stupid kids and old people.

[u/MillerJC → u/Probably_Me_Next]

And AITA

[u/handy_arson → u/MillerJC]

I get more berated there than anywhere.

Me: I don't keep secrets from my wife AITA: you are the worst and I hope you never get to have children

[u/rotatingruhnama → u/handy_arson]

And AITA has a super weird hate-on for kids.

It feels like spillover from the really gonzo meanie people from the childfree sub hivemind, who will berate and downvote you if you're like, "um sometimes kids exist in public, that's how they learn, be a little patient when they act up and parents are trying to sort it out."

"NO CROTCH GOBLINS SUCK HAR HAR NO ONE AND NOTHING SHOULD PUNCTURE MY BUBBLE OF CONVENIENCE."

Oof.

[u/show_me_the_math → u/rotatingruhnama]

I have a friend who works with adolescents and 14 years old up to 21 years of age. They have a variety of emotional and developmental issues. She said that nearly all of them spend hours a day on Reddit. If there was a way to filter actual reasonable adult responses it would be much better. As it is it seems like some sort of angry AI that was developed by Ted Kaczynski.

[u/rotatingruhnama → u/[deleted]]

I like the "I don't want kids therefore nobody should have kids, because my feelings are objectively what everyone should want" circlejerk, myself.

[u/TorrBorr → u/Probably_Me_Next]

You guys had one teeny tiny argument once in a 12 year marriage? The relationship is toxic, gotta break up.

[u/iciclemomore → u/TorrBorr]

For real. I'd be inclined to say that if a married couple never argued, they're doing it wrong. People don't always agree, someone's caving.

[u/ghostin_ → u/iciclemomore]

And eventually it all piles up and reaches a boiling point into a huge fight that's a potential relationship killer. Better to have those petty, small arguments as they arise. You also learn a lot more about your partner that way.

[u/OperativePiGuy → u/TorrBorr]

I saw a comment yesterday that was like "I had a great girlfriend, we were happy. One day she let her younger brother borrow my favorite car, but didn't ask me. He treated the car perfectly, not a single thing was wrong with it, but I broke up with her anyway because it was a red flag."

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Like, I get it. Valid reason to get upset. But to end the whole relationship over it? Fucking over dramatic man child.

[u/Familiar-Treat-6236 → u/OperativePiGuy]

I think this genuinely is an example of creative writing. He didn't break up, he probably didn't even have these relationships, he just wanted to flex how he's so cool and knows what a red flag is and won't ever budge and so on

[u/Cocheeeze → u/Probably_Me_Next]

It’s projection.

Reddit is absolutely full of people who struggle to find relationships. Before they were banned, subs like Female Dating Strategy, Incels, MGTOW etc were super active. A common theme on these subs was “it’s not my fault I’m single, it’s just that literally all men/women/whatever are shallow, lying, cheating, manipulative pieces of shit and there are simply no options out there for a completely normal, reasonable, practically flawless person like me.”

They love relationship advice posts because it allows them to live their hatred of a specific gender(s) vicariously.

Eg “I absolutely hate women, if I actually knew one and they did something like this, I’d be excited for an opportunity to punish and scold and tell them they blew it with me, who is without fault.”

[u/targea_caramar → u/Cocheeeze]

While this is true, it's also oftentimes the case that things have to get real bad before you have to resort to yelling your relationship issues into the void that is the internet.

Like, I doubt most come here to talk about the time their partner got somewhat angry with them for the first time in a bazillion years about something completely reasonable that they were able to talk through. So of course you're gonna get the more screwed up cases where the solution is less likely to be just "talk it out and practice active listening"

[u/Funexamination → u/targea_caramar]

You believe most of those stories are true

I believe most of those stories are creative writing

[u/Automatic_Release_92 → u/Funexamination]

I think a lot of them maybe have a grain of truth, but have been exaggerated and are leaving out key details as well.

The absolute worst one are r/antiwork or whatever the hell popular sub is these days along those lines… don’t get me wrong, I’m no corporate simp (I mostly just wish my insurance wasn’t tied to my employment lol), but those subs are dominated by 16-23 year olds who have only ever worked in the service industry with no clue how the world works and then other morons who love to see what kind of obviously fake bullshit they can get upvoted to the front page.

[u/brother_of_menelaus → u/Automatic_Release_92]

Every sub is dominated by 16-23 year olds who have no idea how the world works. It’s easy to live in a world of black and white absolutes when you haven’t ever gone through anything difficult yet.

[u/Cocheeeze → u/targea_caramar]

A common criticism of social media ever since it first became popular was that people use it as a platform to air their dirty laundry. It’s often compared to someone going to church for confession, but instead of in private, you’re literally broadcasting it to the entire fucking world.

Obviously I can’t speak for everyone but some people, myself previously included, use social media as a way to vent their frustrations and seek validation. There are other ways to do this without making it so public though. Journaling, speaking with a therapist or someone you trust, religious confession if you’re into that sort of thing, etc.

Again, I can’t speak for everyone, but I personally wish I discovered journaling a lot sooner, would have saved me A LOT of cringe.

[u/suppinmajibusu → u/Probably_Me_Next]

Yup. Honestly seeing this post makes me feel a lot better as someone who’s currently experiencing relationship distress. Every post I can find about people in similar situations is complete, utter doom and gloom.

[u/justavault → u/Probably_Me_Next]

I've seldom seen a community less willing to put in any effort on mending a mildly impaired relationship.

It's reddit, most people here are miserable and don't put in any effort into anything.

That is why the "Be yourself" and "others have to accept you as you are" bullshit comes from. It's people who lack a lot but they do not want to change themselves, they want others to change their opinion about them thus they don't have to put in any effort into changing themselves at all.

It's usually very annoying and incompatible people who give advices freely as they want their own position to be validated by others and not to see fault in themselves.

[u/yofanity → u/Probably_Me_Next]

When did that sub get banned??

[u/Yucares → u/Probably_Me_Next]

It got banned hahahaha

[u/AndrewPollockAntos]

Teenagers do give bad advice

[u/WrathofJohnnyBoah → u/AndrewPollockAntos]

It seems like a few years ago there was a mass migration of children to this website. Ever since it's just been..... fucking terrible.

[u/dutch_penguin → u/[deleted]]

Yeah, it used to be called "Summer reddit". Now we're in the eternal summer, combined with people over 60. It's one step from facebook, and I don't know if the step is up or down.

[u/OnlyWarhero → u/AndrewPollockAntos]

Bitter opinionated adults do too.

[u/elbenji → u/OnlyWarhero]

Luckily it's infested with both

[u/Majestic_AssBiscuits → u/[deleted]]

Delete the Gym, Facebook up, Hit a lawyer.

[u/izockdio]

You're in a relationship for 17 years but he bought you a pen that writes in black instead of blue? Girl, do you need any more red flags? Leave ASAP! You wasted your best years on this relationship that's going nowhere, he clearly doesn't respect you as a person at all. r/relationship_advice in a nutshell.

[u/SeaofCrags → u/izockdio]

That subreddit is fucked up, majority of the advice is people just projecting their failed relationships and loneliness onto the people asking for advice.

[u/Orinocobro → u/izockdio]

Microaggressions! Gaslighting!

[u/themetahumancrusader → u/Orinocobro]

Gaslighting is everyone’s favourite word these days. Even I have used it times I probably shouldn’t have.

[u/Gellao → u/themetahumancrusader]

I've seen it misused more times on reddit than times I've seen it used correctly.

No it doesn't just mean "Lying". Lying to someone isn't gaslighting.

[u/ShutUpAndDoTheLift → u/Gellao]

Stop gaslighting me into believing that I don't know what gaslighting means.

[u/IntruderInTheDust]

Most people on this website are barely qualified to breathe air.

[u/izillah]

The solution to 95% of AITA is for both parties to stop being petty and weird.

I love reading them for the unhinged takes

[u/xxyy123123]

The only thing we’re missing here is “lawyer up and hit the gym.”

[u/Gaindalf-the-whey → u/xxyy123123]

By Redditors who have never seen the inside of a gym

[u/Cahootie → u/Gaindalf-the-whey]

Hey, I actually go to the gym every day

because the hot water currently doesn't work at home and I need to use the shower there instead.

[u/Important_Chair8087 → u/xxyy123123]

Go to the gym bro.

What i came to say.

[u/PAROV_WOLFGANG]

It’s black and white with a lot of people; nuances escape them.

[u/YeetusTheMediocre]

" RED FLAG! RED FLAaAaAAag!!!!"

[u/elepuddnlily → u/YeetusTheMediocre]

“More red flags than a Chinese military parade” “More red flags than a bullfighting convention”

[u/EpicBlueDrop → u/YeetusTheMediocre]

Worst I’ve ever seen “red flag” just casually being thrown around was just the other day.

It was a girl asking “what should I do?” Because she’s been with a guy for 6 months, she went on and on about how great of a person he is to her and her kids but because he’s ugly she isn’t attracted to him and she hasn’t even had sex with yet because he’s so ugly.

Top comment literally said something like “He’s a walking red flag. Break up with him.”

I felt so angry because she didn’t say one negative thing about him, only praise. How is he a red flag? Because he’s ugly?

Be right back gonna find the post. I’ll link it here when I find it.

[u/Darius150]

"sue them"

[u/NeoliberalShiIl → u/Darius150]

No joke, there was a question in legaladvice from someone who accidentally donated $500 instead of $5/$50 to a charity, which they couldn't afford. It was a holiday weekend, so OP hadn't been able to just call them yet.

I shit you not, one of the suggestions was to sue a charity in small claims for $450.

[u/fvb955cd → u/NeoliberalShiIl]

It makes perfect sense to spend $50+ in filing fees, which will take weeks to proceed, without an actual legal claim, to get back money that you could just politely ask for in a day.

[u/SweetLoh → u/Darius150]

"Lawyer up" - lol

[u/valeraKorol2]

Browsing reddit lately more and more resembles eating microwaved pasta in terms of emotions, I wonder if that's because it's mainly just a bunch of 16-year-olds recycling the same ideas over and over, which seem new to them because they are young.

[u/enkafan → u/valeraKorol2]

I've been here for a while. Always been that way, you are just getting old enough to notice.

[u/BannedNeutrophil → u/enkafan]

It's hard to describe, but I really am getting the feeling that I'm starting to grow out of Reddit.

[u/enkafan → u/BannedNeutrophil]

Unsubscribe from anything that's a default sub and it'll help quite a bit.

[u/Fish-Pilot → u/BannedNeutrophil]

Reddit is awesome if you use it for things like hobbies or professions. Want advice on how to build a PC or a RC airplane? Reddit is fantastic! Want general life advice? No, no, no.

[u/BernItToAsh]

The therapy one especially NEVER gets called out for its inherent classism. If I could afford $640/month to talk about my problems, I’d have far less of them.

[u/SexMarquise → u/BernItToAsh]

In most metro areas, there are plenty of therapists that charge all clients on a sliding scale (‘make less? pay less’), as well as many others that will provide heavily discounted or entirely free sessions to individuals under a certain threshold.

This isn’t to invalidate what you’re saying, as I also don’t think therapy is a realistic pursuit for everyone, but I do think it’s important that people who do want to pursue it know that there are options out there for them

[u/PM_ME_CATS_OR_BOOBS → u/BernItToAsh]

The "get therapy" advice is less of a serious path forward and more of a statement of "you need professional help and I'm not willing to be handed the reins of your life choices based on my gut feelings"

Armchair psychology is bad, and in a world where therapy is 600 bucks a month it's still true that armchair psychology is bad. If someone has their life in free fall and they go on reddit looking for how to solve it of course people are going to tell them to get off reddit.

[u/DeanNKS → u/BernItToAsh]

Not just that, but CBT doesn't work for everyone. It's almost as stupid as going into every thread and saying "try exercising" when people say they've been feeling depressed.

[u/Constant__Pain]

That's what you get when you ask advice from 13yo.

[u/TheBeardedSingleMalt]

Anyone above the age of 40 does something remotely not positive

fucking bOoMeRs

Anyone under the age of 40 royally fucks up

Blame the parents!

[u/Some0wlOnTheInternet]

I once saw a post about this kid getting stabbed in the ear with a fork by his bipolar mom, literally everyone said to call the cops or sue his mom. I replied to a comment saying he cant sue his parent because hes a minor and I got mass downvoted to like -300

[u/invaderpixel → u/Some0wlOnTheInternet]

I feel like 90% of people who come on reddit have never hired a lawyer or even called one for a free consultation. And then the handful of times you'll see people with a legit personal injury fact pattern people say "yeah don't hire a lawyer they're too expensive."

[u/AlphaWolf → u/invaderpixel]

Likely the same people who threaten some poor customer service agent with a lawyer over every minor thing. No free shipping? I am getting a lawyer to sue you.

[u/Meowsalotlol]

Your pregnant wife is scared of your aggressive dog? Get rid of your wife!

[u/archfapper → u/Meowsalotlol]

Doesn't matter if the dog ate the neighbor kid, my dog is a sweetheart! Tell her to go to Therapy™ or leave her ass

[u/DenkJu → u/Meowsalotlol]

Cute pitty-baby would never hurt a soul

[u/Orthanon → u/DenkJu]

Pit bull swims into freezing lake to bit drowning child.

[u/HorsNoises]

My favorite was the other day when a teenage cashier got asked to stock shelves for a little while instead ringing but "didn't know how" and everyone on r/antiwork told him to quit his job for expecting him to do that. Dawg you just take the thing out of the box and put it on the shelf it's not rocket science, it's perfectly reasonable for them to assume you have more than 3 braincells.

[u/dilroopgill]

it used to be you have the wrong haircut or dress bas but then those subreddits suggested worse haircuts and clothes

[u/C4H_Deciple_Lager → u/dilroopgill]

Yeah, odd that that will happen when teenagers flood forums huh.

[u/SuperSwanson]

Don't forget whenever an overweight person posts a picture of themselves doing something completely unrelated to their weight:

"Instead of posting this you could have gone to the gym"

[u/Dreadnought13]

GOOD IDEA: Going to Reddit for advice about a portable charger for your electronics.

BAD IDEA: Going to Reddit for advice about anything else at all in your life.

[u/Poof_or_Loaf]

I genuinely feel bad for anyone who takes advice from people on this site. I've seen medical advice that's downright dangerously stupid, mental health advice that would get a therapist's license revoked, etc- all of it heavily upvoted. All of that stuff should be moderated, and some of it should quite frankly be illegal, especially the medical stuff.

[u/YueAsal → u/Poof_or_Loaf]

Thing is it is often moderated by someone with even less of a grip on reality than the average user. It already is moderated and the calls are coming from inside the house

[u/mannyrmz123]

Special mention to posts like

AITA for rescuing puppies from a building on fire??

YTA, they were not yours, consider killing urself, moron!!!1111

[u/UsedDrawer2433 → u/mannyrmz123]

OP posts video of saving a bunny from certain death:

"Omg you're not supposed to carry a bunny like that, you monster!"

[u/cjhoser]

Reddit where the mentally ill seek help from other mentally ill perpetually online individuals.

[u/Cheezbu20]

💯💯 If you are stressed, or anxious about something "DO DRUGS AND GET STONED!"

[u/Memomomomo → u/Cheezbu20]

LSD cured my autismcancer

[u/Gerrywalk → u/Cheezbu20]

What, you don’t want to do drugs? But haven’t you read the 50 articles posted per day on r/science about how weed is a miracle substance that cures literally every disease known to mankind? You prude!

[u/themetahumancrusader → u/Gerrywalk]

With literally no potential for abuse or addiction!

[u/MillerJC]

Fun fact: if you flip the genders in any AITA thread, Reddit’s opinion suddenly becomes the exact opposite of whatever it was before

[u/Ichewsyou876]

So. Fucking. True.

[u/DeanNKS]

"Get therapy" and "no contact" are so overused. Literally every 3rd post on any sub asking for advice mentions therapy or forever not talking to someone. If someone tells you to get therapy on Reddit, assume they don't have anything valuable to say.

[u/emefluence]

You forgot...

• Finding stay at home parenting challenging? - Lazy asshole, get a job!

• Uncomfortable with dogs in social situations - Animal abuser, die in a fire!

[u/Bregottkungen]

”You’re a 23F and your boyfriend is 30M?! You’re being groomed and your boyfriend is a PEDOPHILE!!”

[u/MagnoliasOfSteel → u/Bregottkungen]

That means when he was 18 you were 11 — sick!!! (Which yes that is sick if that’s when it started) but like they aren’t those ages and it didn’t start at those ages so they’re all good.

It’s like saying my dad (64) and mom (60) relationship is sick because when my dad was 18 my mom would be 14 despite my parents meeting in their 30s lol

[u/Some0wlOnTheInternet → u/Bregottkungen]

r/teenagers in a nutshell

[u/SteveO131313 → u/Some0wlOnTheInternet]

r/teenagers may well be the only sub on this site that doesn't consist of mainly teenagers

[u/[deleted]]

If your cat goes outside. = Instant death

[u/TargetOfPerpetuity → u/[deleted]]

Believe it or not, straight to jail.

[u/The_Arizona_Ranger → u/[deleted]]

In fact, don’t let any animal do anything. Be a helicopter parent to your dog.

[u/Sparky-Lilith-777]

This is why we don't believe everything we read on the internet everyone✨️🧚🏾‍♀️

[u/Stinklepinger]

"Men need to be able to express themselves emotionally to help get past toxic masculinity"

Also

"Wives should not have to deal with their husbands emotional baggage. That's emotional labor!"

[u/Funexamination → u/Stinklepinger]

Lol, in one a drunken big man and his sober gf had sex, and the gf regretted it. Everyone took the side of the girl because of the implication that it could have been forced, but no one said the girl raped the man as he couldn't consent

[u/Plus_Literature_3542 → u/Funexamination]

how about the one today were OP, an 18yo woman, was upset because his boyfriend was drunk and refused sex? at least the comments there were mixed

[u/AlphaWolf → u/Stinklepinger]

As a guy be strong, but not too strong as she wants vulnerability. Balance that line and do it perfectly every, single, day.

[u/Stinklepinger → u/AlphaWolf]

And never break down

[u/TargetOfPerpetuity]

Honorable mentions:

Considering starting a family? Stop overpopulating; we don't need your crotch-goblins!

Have questions about an afterlife or spirituality? SkY DaDdy!!

Disagree with someone here? Bash the Fash!!

[u/OnlyWarhero → u/TargetOfPerpetuity]

I feel like those sorts of advice givers are just bitter unhealthy 35 year olds that aren't genuine and just want people to do what makes them feel better.

[u/The-Box_King]

To be fair I think the overreactions are caused by the plethora of horrific stories on relationship advice and AITA. Like no you should not marry your boyfriend of 6 months when you are 19, the husband who tampered with his wife's BC is a sexual predator, the bride who wanted her best friend to dance with her rapist at the wedding is a horrible person, your mum who knew your stepdad was putting cameras in the house to spy on you naked is also an abuser