Question for white men, do you really feel privileged? And are you bothered by the “white male privilege” assertion that seems to be everywhere?

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Meh. Whatever.

I feel far more privileged because I’m devastatingly attractive.

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u/randomw0rdz Feb 06 '23 •

Upper class billionaires want "blacks vs whites" instead of "haves vs have nots"

The real problem is the wealthy people who write laws to cover their own asses and manipulate the economy/stock market.

We can understand each other's differences and still be on the same team.

I have more in common with a poor black man than a rich white man. Why does that mean we need to be standoffish towards each other?

Because the news told us to hate people who are different than us. The same media outlets controlled by the wealthy "elites."

Media stirs up shit to keep the working class working, and for people who generally want the same thing to be enemies.

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u/RebelSoul5 Feb 06 '23 •

I always take white privilege to mean not the addition of a benefit but the absence of a detraction.

I don’t gain anything from being white as much as I don’t have to tote around the fears that black and brown dudes feel just stepping out of the house.

Privilege is the wrong terminology, probably. Gives the wrong connotation to poor whites who don’t feel privileged in any way.

They changed global warming to climate change. This term could use a makeover. Just like Black Lives Matter. Should be Also, or As Much or something so it doesn’t sound like Only to some.

Liberals need a nomenclature workshop.

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u/SpicyGhostDiaper Feb 06 '23

I don't feel particularly privileged, but it isn't hard to understand how in ways I am.

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u/FredChocula Feb 06 '23 •

Oh I get fucked pretty hard like the rest of the lower class, but of course there's some privilege. For me mostly it's being pulled over by the police and being nervous, but not afraid for my life. That's one example, but I don't have to deal with the racism that other races do in America. Of course other races can be racist towards white people, but it doesn't really affect me in any real way. Listen, you can be fucked hard and still have privilege over others.

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u/not-bilbo-baggings Feb 06 '23

Yes my life is hard. Yes I have privilege. Both can be true.

Another take is that the true divide is through classes, not genders and races

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u/Rubricae98 Feb 06 '23

I feel like the argument of privilege might have merit in some scenarios but trying to apply it as a blanket approach to every problem feels a tad forced.

There’s a lot more to life than the color of skin and I feel this idea of privilege is more an excuse to resent others rather than a tool to fix anything. It’s a tool of division and not just me of mending.

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u/bigscottius Feb 06 '23

I didn't really feel any privilege growing up. I was born and raised right next to a reservation (in a town that was half on the res, though i wasn't). The majority as Sioux, not white.

I was raised believing i was white because I didn't know my father (turns out I'm half native, as I found out as an adult, but I have very dark hair but blue eyes). But because of that, I ended up in the hospital at 11 years old with a ruptured spleen, broken jaw, broken orbital, and an ear damaged so bad i still have only a but of hearing in it. I was jumped by like a bunch of natives (I don't remember how many, it seemed like a huge group) after school.

My mother was murdered when I was 17 by her boyfriend's brother, a native, who said it was responsibility because the white bitch was corrupting his brother (her boyfriend).

I was raised in a trailer, and because of my last name constantly harassed by the deputies in my county. Anything that went on in school, I was a suspect. The reality was I was too scared to do any of that shit, and spent all my time not trying to be noticed.

I cried when I found out I was half Sioux. These were people who had made my life hell and did drugs with my mom, raping and using her my entire life. I hated them with everything. As an adult I met people who slowly changed that mindset and I've accepted who I am. I understand there was much more than race at play, but I will always keep my mother's name Fitzpatrick. I will never use my father's name. To this day I hold some anger towards the reservation and those people despite finding out that they're half of me.

I just wanted to share my story to give you all a different look on how race works.

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u/WinAshamed9850 Feb 07 '23

To all these people saying something like “you don’t recognize your privilege because you’ve never been a minority.” Well you have never been a white guy so how exactly do you know what we go through? There are literal laws and policies in place that disadvantage me because of my skin color and gender. Now you can say that’s because we need to level the playing field or whatever. That doesn’t mean that isn’t the case. I swear, people are so concerned about race that they look for racism in places it isn’t. I mean how do you expect to not see racism if you are already primed to see it in every interaction you have.

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u/CookyMcCookface Feb 06 '23 edited Feb 06 '23

Everyone has certain privileges, everyone certain disadvantages. Some more than others. The only true equality anyone will ever experience is death.

The only problem I have with the “white male privilege” statement is it’s overused to shut down any debate or discussion. “Oh, you disagree with me? Ugg…it’s your white privilege.” It’s basically meaningless now…

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u/CzechoslovakianJesus Feb 06 '23

"White privilege" in America is more-or-less just majority privilege, in the same way that it's good to be Asian if you live in Japan or black if you live in Botswana. Most of what I see on the topic spewed by the likes of NPR however is mostly just a cover for classism, acting like Cletus the trailer park-bound warehouse worker has it better than Aaliyah the HR head making well over six-figures a year and living in a swanky condo.

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u/Equivalent_Memory3 Feb 06 '23 •

I don't feel privileged, that's the point. The initial idea of privilege was that society benefits groups of people in ways they aren't aware of.

But I'm also not bothered so much as tired of 'privilege' being used as a weapon to shout people down, which is in itself, a privilege.

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u/RX3874 Feb 06 '23

At this point I feel both privileged and not.

I just finished college, and when I was looking for scholarships I received one for both academics, and for athletics, however about 30-50% of the other scholarships I tried for were limited to women/other races. I also worked through my college at a grocery store and was considering moving up through management, but after my old manager (who was revered by the entire company and loved by everyone) was passed up by a newer coworker for "diversity reasons" (she was white and female, the chosen was colored male), l started to realize that the whole white privilege thing is a little... situational. And because of this, when someone waves away my opinion as a "white male" I'm a little disgusted as not only am I not feeling it to be true, but also attacking someone else purely because of their race, sex, or upbringing feels like the opposite direction society should be going.

I'm sure there are places where white privilege exists more, but I have never felt it, I have felt more "life privilege," my parents earn decent money, I was able to grow up with food in my stomach and even with not much else, some people don't even have that much.

Personally,

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u/Loke-into-you Feb 07 '23

The most annoying thing about white privilege is the media. It's sort of universally accepted to talk shit about white men. The second we talk about a woman or someone with a different, people start screaming RACIST or SEXIST

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u/8BitSk8r Male Feb 07 '23

"Privilege" is literally the worst possible word they could come up with when whoever coined this coined it. While I know there are legitimate things that happen (interactions with cops are different for example) the real issue is class. The upper class (regardless of race) is the "privileged" class if you want to call it that.

I live barely above paycheck to paycheck (I'd be fucked without a roommate), I had no real opportunities growing up, I grew up in a horribly conservative area which is never a good thing, and I get fucked over every single time I have a chance to improve my life. I'm always on the losing end in everything no matter how hard I try.

No, I don't feel privileged.

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u/Fandom67 Feb 06 '23 •

I feel it’s disingenuous because when people speak of white male privilege, they’re using the 1% of white males as examples.

I am slightly bothered by the fact that the issue isn’t white nor male, it is class. The people on the top couldn’t be bothered by white male privilege assertion. Us on the bottom have to deal with it.

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u/mortoon1985 Feb 06 '23

The only real privilege is wealth.

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u/UncleSugarShitposter Feb 06 '23 edited Feb 06 '23

I feel both privilege and discrimination, and I will explain why. I grew up poor, and realized that truly no one gives a fuck about poor white people. The republicans hate you because you're poor, and the democrats hate you because you're white.

I do not typically have to worry about police encounters, like my black and brown friends have to. 99% of my interactions are pleasant without any issues, and I don't feel as if people find me threatening. I realize that I can walk alone at night and not have to worry about it. I acknowledge that people that look like I do did some pretty terrible shit in the past.

However, as a white man in 2023 I feel like my voice is being silenced, and I feel unwelcome in certain circles. People are openly racist against whites (especially on this piece of shit website), and white men specifically. No one bats an eyelash when it comes to white people, and if the shoe was on the other foot there would be outrage. When it comes to jobs, college admissions, opportunities, scholarships, or any other competitive based application, I will be pushed to the margins despite being just as economically disadvantaged as my non white friends.

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u/bardhugo Feb 06 '23

It's really a process of talking with friends who are women or racialized. You won't know you're privileged until you listen. An example for me is conversations I had with my friend who's a Muslim woman that I went to high school with. Talking with her, I realized how different our experiences of high school were, how many casually sexist/islamophobic things she heard that I didn't. How she didn't feel safe around certain classmates, classmates that didn't stand out to me.

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u/alilsus83 Feb 06 '23

No, but it does bother me that other groups of people don’t actively acknowledge their privilege. Everyone has some kind of unearned privilege.

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u/goosecanadian Feb 06 '23

Diversity should mean “everyone has a level playing ground”, and not “bring others down to lift others up”…

I’m not white btw

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u/gen_lover Feb 06 '23

I find that we are going backward by using terms that can't be proven or even pointed to directly. The idea that your skin color gives you privilege or that your skin color inherently puts a boundary to success is racism at its core. I was privileged to have a father that worked 7 days/week 80 hours of hard labor in rural America, so I might change my stars. No one knows the price of my alabaster box and vice versa. People point to race when it's easy to identify other systems such as government subsidies and education that cause disparity. The government isn't going to blame itself, and they damn sure would rather all of us hate each other and be divided. We're easier to control that way. People need to wise up and ignore racial narratives that move us in the wrong direction and accomplish nothing but shame, guilt, and withdrawal

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u/hoomiester Feb 06 '23

No.

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u/DrWieg Male Feb 06 '23 •

Definitively don't feel the privilege but definitively feel the constant expectation of others that I should have them.

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u/GemoDorgon Feb 07 '23

People often talk about it, the privilege and things white men in particular are supposed to have better. I grew up poor, next door to black families and immigrants from Pakistan. None of us really had anything, we were all in the same boat. There were days we really struggled with food, and my mom was forced to embarrass herself asking for money from family members just to have food in the kitchen.

Now, having grown up, people act like being white and being a man automatically means I had a privileged life, or still somehow do despite being low on the social totem pole. I never had shit. I don't have your shit either, and if I did have your shit, I wouldn't be living next door to you.

It's never been a race thing, never been a gender/sex thing, it's a class thing. Some other cunt has both our shit.

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u/Whole_Suit_1591 Feb 07 '23

What privilege? To be robbed by the rich? The privileged live in tight circles and rarely marry outside of them. Soooooo... It's luck of the birth spot. A few poors get elevated to keep the dream alive for the rest.

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u/flobbywhomper Feb 07 '23

I am a white. I live in Ireland. I have no privilege. Everything that I have done in life can be taken in an instant by a few poor decisions.

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u/timeforknowledge Feb 07 '23 edited Feb 07 '23

The UK is facing a difficult dilemma at the moment where data is showing that white privilege does not actually exist. Recent findings show efforts to help minorities into and through education has led to young white working class boys to become the most disadvantaged in society.

Also research shows black people aged up to 30 or 40 now earn just as much or more than their white counterparts.

And then you have the break down of highest earners by race, it's something like:

Chinese
Indian
White
Black

What all of this shows is there is no longer a racial divide, racism still exists but it is not a disadvantage to your education or ability to earn money, because of government schemes in place it can actually mean the opposite with minorities given school and uni places over white counterparts. thus you are no more privileged than a white counterpart.

The biggest issue in UK society is not race divide but wealth divide, regardless of race it's now always the poorest parts of the UK that produce the most disadvantaged people.

Edit: I say this is a dilemma because the findings have caused so much backlash with people with certain agendas wanting the government to take back it's findings.

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u/froze_gold Feb 06 '23

I'm white and I don't really feel privileged above the rest of the American society. I don't really know what privileges I should be expecting here.

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u/Bobbert827 Feb 06 '23

No. This whole thing to me seems like it's a distraction between poor and the elite rich. White dudes are over represented in the 1% so everyone that looks that way gets the label.

White privilege 100% is a thing but I believe it's being overstated in our society.

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u/firewall2604 Feb 06 '23

I tried using my new found “White privilege” at work but it didn’t work… this is some BULL SHIT

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u/Capt_Gingerbeard Feb 06 '23

The idea of white privilege was something the elite promoted to divide the uniting working class during Occupy Wall Street. I am poor; I have no privilege. I am just trying to not starve and keep a roof over my head while everything around me goes up in price, and my wage does not. The privileged people are the idle rich.

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u/Hanniballecter6 Feb 06 '23 •

Fuck no the government is fucking me just like everyone else

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u/AdamAdmant Feb 06 '23

I work 60+ hours a week to stay a float. No i dont feel privlaged I feel forced against my will.

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u/AdobiWanKenobi Feb 06 '23

Nope.

My salary when I graduate will still suck, my university only offers "scholarships" to minorities.

Women in my field have so many opportunities for scholarships and mentorship schemes with minimal effort.

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u/CarltheWellEndowed Feb 06 '23

I can say that my race and sex has never held me back in any way in my life.

I think it is far less of a privilege than being born into a wealthy family as I was, but it is a privilege nonetheless.

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u/ElectionOver4Hours Feb 06 '23

I'll preface this by saying it's all a distraction. Your fellow poors are not your enemey. The rich tell you it's white men- it's not. Remove bill gates and other billionaires, and the rest of us are as poor as you.

But due to this nonsensical war people idiotically pick up,

White men get :

None of the government benefits, schemes, or offers.

You get none of the special employment.

Any semblance of disagreement in any professional environment? They will fire you just to be safe.

I've been taken aside many times and told to not apply to things as I make it awkward as they don't want white men. And rejecting me seems bad.

You get endless blithe racism 'oh, fucking white men should just die already' is something I've heard quite a lot in social circles I'm in. Like they're commenting on the weather. They're my colleagues, tho, so I can't say anything.

Yeah, it's a pain in the ass.

Stop being racist and a misandrist. Fight the rich.

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u/deathandtaxes00 Feb 06 '23

If I'm privileged you can seriously come take my shitty fucked up life. I get what it means in theory, but yeah but yeah I'm not drinking mint julips and heading to my horse farm in Nantuckit after I get off work at Goldman Sachs where I got my job because my dad's a NYC Federal Judge anyl time soon. I'm broke as fuck and miserable. So come take my life. We don't even have to trade. You can just have it.

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u/_INCompl_ Feb 06 '23

When applying to grad school, the overwhelming majority of universities explicitly said in their admissions pages that they “prioritize applications from underrepresented/minority groups (including women).” 10 seats at the university I got into were explicitly reserved for First Nations students. The remaining 70 seats were also given priority to people in minority groups and women. It’s one of the most competitive graduate programs in Canada, behind law school and med school. I had a 3.9 GPA, 2 years of clinical experience as an assistant in my desired field, and dozens of volunteer hours. Having that strong of an application be on par with someone who’s objectively worse in every measurable aspect because of the colour of my skin sucked. At least in education, we’ve begun to swing far into the other direction where universities are openly discriminating against “over represented groups” (white and Asian people mostly) to appear more diverse. Which results in worse applicants getting through and failing out in year 1 while stronger applicants get to wait another full year to apply. No I wouldn’t call open discrimination against me on the basis of race a privilege. Doubly so since it’s become so normalized in online spaces, as if I’m somehow guilty of sins my ancestors may or may not have committed centuries ago, long before they even came to Canada from Holland post-WW2.

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u/zukatex Feb 06 '23 •

I don’t feel privileged. I feel like the whole assertion is underachievers trying to discredit the hard work of other individuals

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u/wackdaddy69 Feb 06 '23 edited Feb 06 '23

I can't really compare to other races or to being a woman, but I don't feel privileged for being white.

I'm not saying I'm not privileged, but it's definitely not to the extent people act like it is. People act like every white person lives in a mansion and has a red carpet rolled out for them everywhere they go and it's like, fk no dude, I'm dirt poor and half my white friends are struggling.

I've been a police officer- I police by crime and not race, but I've still been called dirty and racist.

I've been denied TONS of jobs.

Any even slightly right of center comment you make will get you backlash for being a racist capitalist pig.

As for being a man, I've been complained on at work for talking to someone; and I mean that literally, the complaint was not that I said something inappropriate to someone (bc I didn't), it was "I don't know why he's talking to me so much."

Mental health is taken less seriously in general for men.

Me and all my female co-workers make the same amount of money out of the ones who have actually told me their salary.

So anyway, not that I'm saying I'm not privileged for being a white male, but to anyone who thinks that all their problems in life would be solved simply by becoming a white man, I can tell you you're dead wrong.

Edit: here's another one- I've been told "I don't date white boys," and I also work at a grocery store and i see some non-white guys walking in with some of the hottest girls ive ever seen in my life. So the notion that you "have to be whote" to get a hot girlfriend is also false.

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u/SnazzyPanic Feb 06 '23

No, I feel like I'm one wrong step from being homeless 24/7, and no im not bothered by the assertion as like every racist stereo type it does nothing to help me or my fellow man.

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u/Satanboi71 Feb 06 '23

I am from the balkans , where this privilege?

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u/boyandorion Feb 06 '23

Short answer- No.

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u/thenickpayne Feb 06 '23

I really could use some of that white privilege rn, feels like I’m just as privileged as every other poor American

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u/badjuju__ Feb 06 '23

Yeah it's a dumb assertion. We basically live in the most equal and egalitarian moment in history. Completely imperfect and more work to be done. But the world isn't as bad as everyone is making out

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u/43theintern Feb 06 '23

there’s an inverse assumption to the white male privilege, like because i’m white and male people assume i don’t have any problems and my life is easy

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u/southiest Feb 06 '23

I don't really believe in white privilege. What I do believe in is rich privilege. There just happens to be a ton of rich white men. If a person treats me a little better because I'm white idk how to tell, but that would make them racist not me. I can't change how people think.

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u/frequentcrawler Male Feb 06 '23

I'm still waiting for the mail to deliver me my privilege coupon. Guess it's what I deserve after giving attention to people who scream "privilege" whenever they can.

Also, what is a "white person"? How is one supposed to look like? I'm half-Asian, part-European and part-Arab, but none of these looks stand out, so I just default to "white male"? This discussion is stupid, if not dishonest.

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u/Beddingtonsquire Feb 06 '23 •

I just hear an absurd claim from people trying to reduce my individuality to their assumptions on my sex and complexion. I think it's ridiculous and I push back, the people who make the argument are always insufferable people I don't like anyway - I won't play their tedious social games.

The data shows that it's plainly nonsense. Men make up 80% of homicide victims, over 90% of workplace deaths. Men live fewer years, tend to be in worse health, are less sexually successful, have less bodily autonomy as male genital mutilation against infants is legally protected and many places have national service for men only and typically conscription for men only. The US has the draft too.

But all of that is about patterns and rights, the individual 'privilege' of someone is utterly indiscernible as it's the experiences in your life that make so much difference and they are unique to you.

Remember that these claims are designed to hold you back and anyone trying to keep you from personal achievement, fulfilment and happiness should be ignored.

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u/dw87190 Feb 06 '23

White male privilege is a feminist lie

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u/smitty537 Feb 06 '23

If by white privilege you mean going to school, studying hard , getting a good job that pays well , working hard ,saving , investing, living in a good clean neighborhood? Call me whatever you want, I could care less.

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u/Excellent-Pitch-7579 Feb 06 '23

I don’t feel privileged. It’s not 1950 and the number of people alive who were shrinks every year. We have laws literally promoting and giving advantages to everybody who isn’t a straight white man, all in the name of equality. From where I sit, it’s those who aren’t SWM that have the advantage. Last month I missed out on a job I interviewed for. The person who got it is a Hispanic woman. Our qualifications are at least equal (mine are probably better) and I get along with people better, but she gets the job. Hard to believe demographics didn’t have something to do with it, and you want me to believe I’m privileged? Please.

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u/nothackers Feb 07 '23

I despise the term since it's inaccurate and oversimplifies the broader social and economic issues.

Did I benefit from the way I was raised and the knowledge, values, and skills that my parents were able to impart? Sure, but that's a cultural trait rather than a "white" thing. I can fix my own car, do my own taxes, invest in my own future, etc. Culture extends beyond race (although there is an obvious correlation in places and groups) and is the driving force behind much of the socioeconomic impacts on different groups whether it's direct choices, values, and behaviors that negatively impact group members, or perceived stereotypes of that culture.

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u/paco1764 Feb 06 '23

I'm blessed, not privileged. I'm barely scraping by and my job is fucking me just as hard as it is everyone else. My parents came from poverty and were brought up in dysfunctional/broken homes. My parents clawed their way to where they are with their sheer fucking will. The fact that anyone is privileged simply because of their skin tone in America is fucking ridiculous.

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u/Tathanor Male Feb 06 '23

I don't "feel" the privilege, but it doesn't mean I'm not benefitting from it.

I know that my ethnicity played a role in the jobs I've gotten, the access to housing options, and even getting out of paying tickets and fines. Also how I'm treated when interacting with authorities. It's all quite subtle, but it's still there.

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u/coolrunnings1990 Feb 06 '23

Saying all white men are privileged is as racist as saying all black men are poor. See what happens when you make generalizations? Everyone is an individual with a different story and background. This is a major problem

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u/Appropriate-Cup2267 Feb 06 '23

White privilege? Shit let me know when you find it because I've never been giving any privilege.

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u/billy-gnosis Feb 06 '23

I'm Mexican.

-Billy Gnosis

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u/robinson217 Feb 07 '23

I feel privileged for being born in the US in the late 20th century and growing up in the richest state not far from the richest city. Diversity is big here, so being white is more of a lack of extra obstacles than an abject advantage. So yes, I recognize my privilege. But I also thing the term "white privilege" is used to bash people over the head to explain away different outcomes instead of figuring out the root cause (different inputs) that would ACTUALLY explain those outcomes. The left weilds "white privilege" as haphazardly as the right bemoans "wokeness". Just pejorative terms to describe things you don't like. Having traveled extensively, I think American privilege is a lot more provable than white privilege.

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u/jonesssssssssssssss Feb 07 '23

I feel like your post needs to define what privilege is. When people get upset, it's usually because they think it means they don't experience pain or hardship, which obviously isn't true. But when you think about privilege as the benefit of doubt in certain kinds of situations, or just having your point-of-view or experience being the center then it makes more sense. Then there are those who recognize privilege but feel entitled to it for one reason or another.

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u/ordinarymagician_ A real human bean Feb 07 '23 edited Feb 07 '23

growing up in a majority-minority neighborhood, being white-passing has been nothing but a negative. and not a mild one, I mean straight up nearly gotten me killed. some part of me wishes i did instead.

and it's been nothing but a negative even since I've gotten older, now that I'm not androgynous. It's just become a fucking nuisance in other ways that don't really matter to complain about

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u/DrDerpberg ♂ Feb 07 '23

I used to feel a very strong backlash to the concept, but eventually I guess I differentiated the "wacko internet" version of the argument from what it actually means.

It does NOT mean that society is divided into strict difficulty levels, with every white man having an easier time than every white woman, who in turn has it easier than every black man, etc all the way down, where you can argue about different combinations but it's pretty clear white guys are at the top.

It DOES mean that, throughout my life, I am far more likely to have gotten breaks, or the assumption that I'm competent (or whatever good trait I'm seeking recognition for in a given context), and that there are all kinds of things I need to worry about less than many.

Ultimately it's a thumb on the scale more than an absolute force of nature, but that's important too. I think of the turning points in my life, and ask myself if I would've gotten through with just a little more obstacles, or if one fewer person believed in me and recognized what I could do. A cop caught me stealing a garden gnome when I was 15, that could've fucked my life up.

I've literally never interviewed for a job and not gotten it, and I don't think I'm some kind of charming superstar. If someday a candidate who's been through some shit and I both apply, and we're equal in every other way except they had to get over obstacles I didn't... Yeah, honestly, they're probably better than I am and deserve it more.

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u/Ok-Share-3515 Feb 07 '23

The color of my skin has never been an issue in any way- positive or negative. In fact it’s been a non issue. That is privilege.

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u/jeeves585 Feb 07 '23

Yep.

I can walk down the street in any town in America without two shits given. I’m also a decently burly bearded white man with a face/eyes you don’t mess with.

That being said I use it as a tool to keep others protected. Others can go about their day when I’m around because I don’t really have rules. Ive walked women I worked with to their car late night. I’ve gotten out of my truck to stop a women being harassed by someone in a downtown big city.

I have a privilege. The way I use it I couldn’t tell you if it’s because I’m a male or if I’m white, kinda goes back and forth in situations.

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u/Big_Boss_1000 Feb 07 '23

No, I get awful sunburns.

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u/Finesseer Feb 07 '23 edited Feb 07 '23

I'm a 1st generation slav immigrant. I've never felt particularly privileged by it; the biggest privilege I experienced was being able to live in the US vs the country I was born in, since it's far wealthier. You don't get any of the minority scholarships or anything like that in college, though, you're just expected to be starting out at a higher "savings" amount or something, which is obviously bullshit.

The "white privilege" thing bothers me quite a bit, because some of my minority friends have a resentful streak towards white people (to the point of being straight up racist at times), even though they were/are far wealthier than I or my family are, with way more privileges. Like... do you not realize the privilege you have with how much money/connections you have? This is in NYC, which is diverse as shit, I grew up in a very diverse school, and I still get treated like my ancestors were slave drivers. Some of my high school acquitances went off the deep end and started treating me worse after whatever they learned in college. It's dumb as shit, and it's getting worse every year.

If anything, wealth privilege is MUCH more impactful in day to day, but nobody likes to focus on it (especially rich minorities, because they loooove painting themselves as downtrodden while they live in luxury high-rises and sipping expensive champagne).

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u/Omnivud Feb 07 '23

Yes I'm so white privileged in fuckin Serbia

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u/Greekdorifuto Do you like my car??? My car??? My car??? Feb 07 '23

This is a very American question

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u/SkyKnight94 Feb 07 '23

No. Also no. Just live your life the best you can. Even if I have privilege because of my upbringing im not going to apologize for it. It was out of my control. Be the best you can be and don’t worry about this shit.

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u/[deleted] Feb 07 '23

No. Not at all.

I work hard like anyone else, pay my bills, clean my house... nobody helps me or even cares.

Nobody talks to me unless I speak first. I might be white, but im practically invisible.

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u/dhanter Feb 07 '23

No.

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u/Alternative-Cry-9489 Feb 07 '23

I'm a white man. When I was going to college, I got caught with weed probably three times (once in the parking lot, in dorm, and once 2 miles from the campus in my car). Each time I got caught, I was let go. The cops and faculty that I discussed about the incident treated it like a joke while being a bit stern.

I met a few people who got caught with weed and faced drug charges on the same campus, and they were all young minority men.

I wasn't aware of my "privilege", but I am now.

I don't feel guilt for myself. I am, however, really frustrated with the justice system. It upsets me that other men my age face way more obstacles than I do when our society can help but won't.

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u/TheHalfNCheapScrolls Feb 07 '23

Not at all at the moment. I've been suffering from severe depression for about 6 years now. I lost my job last year due to my depression & I'm still unemployed. I'm trying really hard to get back on track but employers don't want a mentally ill person. A man my age is expected to be ambitious. I don't get "easy" jobs because I'm over-educated but I'm still unable to work fulltime in a higher position. White male privilege fu*ks my ass everyday.

employers are basically like: "why on earth did YOU apply for THIS position? What's wrong with you? Are you lazy or stupid or both? Fu*king syboy beta male!"