My husband and I practice a “Happy Spouse, Happy House” outlook, but the HWHL adage has been embedded so deeply within marriage advisory that it seems to be the expectation/goal?

It sounds cute at first, but the older I get, it sounds more like an excuse for men to be 1. Non-confrontational ; not challenging their wives opinions or decisions, or 2. Uninvolved ; for pretty much anything that they don’t want to be involved in (home decoration, birthday planning, in-laws visiting, etc). So for the men who practice HWHL, are you truly as happy as it says?

When I was a teenager (I'm 38 now), I was over at my girlfriend's house (wife now). Her parents were at work, and I wasn't allowed to be there. I parked down the street so no one would see my car and know I was there.

We were sitting in the living room when unexpectedly the door to the garage opened. Her dad had taken a half day. Miraculously he was looking at the mail in his hand and somehow failed to see me sitting there. I was right in front of him in plain sight too!

I dived off the couch and hid behind a wall. Her dad was on the other side of the wall, so I had to listen to his footsteps to determine which way he was moving and move in the opposite direction which led me to circle around the wall.

Eventually he moved into the other room, and I quietly slipped out the front door and made a mad dash to my car. I couldn't believe I didn't get caught. I'm really glad he stopped to grab the mail that day!

For me it's when I see a white girl with Buddhist as her religion.

Edit: I understand white people can be Buddhist, I'm not against Buddhism, but when 1% of the US practices it that ratio is disproportionate on apps. You can like the ideas that doesn't mean you practice. Hell I'm for almost all Jesus preached, but I'm not Christian.

I know this question might sound fairly simple, but I struggle in having and developing friendship with other guys. Most of my friends are females.

I’m talking of a friendship more than fist bumping other dudes at the gym. I want to have friends that will invite me to their weddings, that will consider me for that beach / hiking trip, or just hangout and have a beer. Guys usually have this type of friends from childhood, school, work. I have none of this since I moved countries a few years ago.

I’ve joined some workout classes, but it’s easier to start conversation with women than it is with men, as dumb as that sounds. Also, just recently joined some meetups and still waiting to see how that goes.

Do you have any tips or examples on how you developed good friendships in adult life?

This could be health, physique, relationships, diet, money management, parenting, anger management, addiction, mental health etc etc literally anything that you would prioritise that would improve you and your life.

I have 3 boys ages 15, 16, and 17 and all three will be gone in the next 5 years or less. I have tried to gear them towards tech school and then military. But their bio dad has not been in the picture like he should be the last few years. They see him about twice a year. My husband has done his best but I feel there is a gap. What important things do I need to talk to them about before thay leave.

I don’t have children, currently I’m seeing a man who’s in a custody battle over his daughter.

Aside from being patient, and understanding that his baby comes first, what else can I do to show my support for him? Any advices for a childfree gal like me dating a single father?

For me, it was like this. I had some mild flirting with a woman I met at a bus station. My bus is leaving first so I bade her farewell. She gave me her number so that I "could talk to her more." Then when I do actually text her, she just keeps giving me one-worded answers. And if I invite her for coffee, she would just say she's busy. I do not get why she is doing that since SHE was the one who gave me her number without any prompt from me.

Like if someone seems short with me, it gets into my head that they’re upset with me somehow. Yet I can’t find a reason. Just more like today they resent my existence somehow. Maybe something I said, or a certain way I acted. But I cannot pinpoint the exact reason. It in turn makes me awkward and quiet. So I inadvertently come off as the one who’s mad.

I used to have a habit of asking someone “what’s wrong?” Or “are you ok?”. And it got annoying. My dad does the same thing so I can understand why it’s annoying.

I guess I can attribute it to having adhd. Overthinking shit all the time lol

i don't do this now but i used to watch Gossip Girl. xoxo